Is Lack of Fulfillment Affecting your Weight and Eating Callenges?

So much of the work I do is inspiring, educating and guiding my clients to find their loves, their calling, their purpose and the things that fulfill them – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  This is one of the greatest ways to shift their physiology, awaken their metabolism and transform their relationship with food. The most fulfilling part of my work is to help women find their wholeness by helping them to find their purpose. When this light gets awakened metabolism changes and the reason for eating has new purpose. Eating is no longer about weight loss it becomes more about feeling good and having the energy and vitality to do what you love.

For many women excessive dieting and exercise can be the most important thing in their lives. It can become all-consuming and a distraction because they are not doing what they would love to be doing or they are not on their soul’s path. They have lost their purpose and their calling. I often see this with women going through menopause when they become “empty-nesters.” Many women often lose their identity at this phase in their life. For years they have given so much of themselves to their families and serving others while they lost what was important, valuable and meaningful to them outside of being mothers and wives. They often do not know what excites them or what their loves are. There are many reasons for weight gain during menopause, but in these situations, women’s weight and eating challenges may be due to their stored and untapped energy. Inspiring them to reclaim their identity, identify with a new female archetype, encouraging them to step into their “Queendom” and step into who they are most meant to be, may be a pivotal piece in helping their metabolism and hormones flow.

Here’s a theory: many menopausal and post-menopausal women of today are the young girls of the 1950’s generation - “the housewives.” This was the decade when dieting became part of popular culture. These girls who were in their late teens or early twenties, moved out of their parent’s home, into a home with their husbands, had kids and took care of the home. They never had time to find out who they really were. Many did not go to school or if they did, did not pursue careers because they had children. Some women may not have been completely fulfilled by that and so turned to chronic dieting as something to do. In these situations, it is common for women to use chronic or compulsive dieting and excessive exercise as their purpose. It gives them something to think about, talk about, focus on and analyze. It gives them a measurable outcome, something to control, something to call their own and a specific goal to achieve. In my experience, many stay-at-home mothers who are unsatisfied, unfulfilled and mentally uninspired often focus on weight and dieting, more so than women who love and feel inspired by what they do and feel fulfilled. Many stay-at-home mothers feel trapped which may be a metaphor for trapped weight. Marc David, Founder and Director of the Institute for the Psychology of Eating says, “when we express our potential, our metabolism flows.”

In Women who Run with the Wolves, Dr. Clarissa Estés writes,

Overkill through excesses or excessive behaviors, is acted out by women who are famished for a life that has meaning and makes sense… when women do this they are compensating for the loss of regular cycles of self-expression, soul-expression, soul satiation.

For many women, excessive dieting and exercise and obsessing about weight loss may be compensation for an unexpressed and unfulfilled soul. Powerful questions I ask women in these situations are, “Who would you be if all that energy didn’t go into chronic dieting?” “What would you be doing?”  “Where would that energy go?” These questions often reveal what a women’s true calling and purpose is. As Marc David poignantly states, “the only way the female body can be what it is meant to be, is if she is the woman she is meant to be.” Encouraging women to find their purpose and live their loves is the key in shifting their relationship with food, body and themselves. This is what my work is dedicated to.

If your life lacks purpose, fulfillment, joys, and pleasure and if you are constantly craving food, eating emotionally, fatigued and always wondering why you can’t stick with a diet, then there is a huge connection here and a perfect opportunity to explore the deeper meaning behind your weight and eating challenges. I would be fulfilling my mission if I can explore this with you. A Soulful Nourishment session is 90 minutes/$180. Don’t you think it’s time to approach your weight and eating challenges differently? You must nourish your soul first, so that nourishing your body becomes about wellness, not dieting.

Yours in health,                                                                        









Amy Bondar

As a certified holistic nutritionist, eating psychologist and Demartini Method(R) Facilitator, I'm passionate about helping people awaken to the power of foods to heal and bringing back the joy of eating.